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 First of all I have to say that I am a very lucky person because I am not on any kind of medication and I will be 65 in September of this year.   My sugar and blood pressure is good.  I try to get some exercise everyday.  Several years ago, my doctor put me on Actonel for osteoporosis.  I took it for five years and started having problems with my esophagus. Then, they put me on Prevacid for acid reflux and took me off the Actonel because they thought it was causing the problems with the acid reflux.  I took Prilosec, Prevacid, and whatever medicine my insurance would pay for at least another five years.  They told me I would have to take the acid reflux medicine for the rest of my life.  I lost some weight, started exercising, and on my own I cut down to a pill every other day for the acid reflux.  This worked and after about three months, I went to one every three days. Eventually, I quit them altogether.  I quit eating after 6 p.m. at night and I quit eating huge amounts of food at one time or “pigging out” as I sometimes did.   I started taking vitamins and calcium regularly.   Today, I have no problems with acid reflux and I don’t have osteoporosis.  My bones have even improved!

I met Bob five years ago.  He was on all kinds of medicine.  Bob took blood pressure medicine, diabetes medicine, cholesteral medicine, fluid pills, arthritis medicine,  an aspirin a day, and several others that I can’t even remember.  He slept all the time and once when he was driving I noticed him “nodding off” and screamed at him before he ran the car off the road.  I thought he had narcolepsy because he would be sound asleep in a matter of minutes.  It seemed every time Bob went to the doctor he put him on another pill of some kind.  A couple of years ago we were trying to do some work in my yard and he started staggering around in the yard and thought he was going to pass out.  We thought his sugar was low and I got him some orange juice.  Later, he left for his house, got home and passed out on the floor and cut his head open.  He managed to call his daughter and 911.  Bob spent several days in the hospital with pancreatitis.  The specialist took him off the fluid pills, the arthritis pills and some others saying they were causing him more problems than doing him good.  Today, he takes one pill for his blood pressure if he needs it!  His sugar is good, his cholesterol is normal and he feels great.   He takes a small nap in the afternoons and never sleeps during the day other than his 35 minute nap.  We mowed my yard with a push mower all spring, he runs the weedeater, we walk, and enjoy the yard work.  Bob will be 72 in October.

Bob is living proof that more medicine doesn’t always make you healthier and can make you sicker.  I recently read where one-third of the tests and treatments we get are estimated to be unnecessary, and avoidable care is costly in more ways than the bill: It may lead to dangerous side effects.

Did you know that too many CT scans increase the risk of cancer?  Supposedly, back pain is the most over treated condition and most people would get better without it.  One in five people that get back surgery end up having a second surgery within ten years.

Sometimes, doctors give in to a patients demand for medicine rather than explain why they don’t need it and tests are performed on elderly patients that would not benefit from the treatment due to age.

I certainly know that there are people out there that have to have their medicine and benefit from taking medication.  I just think we need to be fully aware of the side effects of certain pills especially when you are taking several prescribed medicines.

Do you or don’t you take medications?  How do you feel about them?  Have you been able to reduce your medications or are they increasing with each doctor visit?

Thank you for your comments.



Are you a tightwad or penny pincher?  I consider myself a very frugal person or a person that is thrifty instead of extravagant.   When my children were young and we lived on the farm I had to watch every penny.  Eventually, I found myself enjoying finding ways to save money. 

My father-in-law thought I was a tightwad and used to say, “she’ll squeeze a buffalo nickel till the buffalo chokes”!  I had never heard this expression until he started saying it about me.

I love a bargain, or a tip about a way to save money.  It seems since the recession started there are a lot more articles out there on  being thrifty.   Yesterday,  I read one on Yahoo about laundry detergent.  It said the manufacturers of this product was ripping off the public and that we could use half the amount of detergent called for on the bottle and our clothes would be just as clean unless they were filthy when we washed them.  According to the article, it is the agitation that gets most of the dirt out and not the detergent. (if you think about this, people used to scrub their clothes on a scrub board to get them clean without detergent)  I had never given this a thought before.  I did know that the dryer uses a lot of electricity and will often hang my clothes instead of using the dryer.

Some other hints I have seen lately include using fluorescent bulbs instead of regular bulbs but I have been doing this for a while now.  Also, never run the dishwasher unless it is full and don’t use the heater on your dishwasher to dry the dishes but let them dry naturally.  I just automatically let them heat dry but sometimes I don’t empty the dishwasher for several hours.  I am going to try letting them dry naturally since this is supposed to save a lot of electricity.  Another thing I had not ever thought about was using the small burners on the stove top instead of the large ones.   This uses less gas or electricity when cooking!  

I read this one the other day about saving gas.  Did you know it is cheaper to drive an empty car than a car filled with “stuff”?   This article said if you are driving a rolling warehouse, clean out your car and save the cost of driving it!

I looked up the word “tightwad” before doing this post and found out there is a town in Missouri called Tightwad!  It has an area of one square mile and a population of 66 people according to the 2006 census.  If my father-in-law was still living he would be trying to move me to Tightwad!!!! 

Do you enjoy getting tips or household hints about saving money or energy?


This is taken from Prevention Magazine’s April issue.  I thought it was an interesting test that my friends might enjoy! 

1.  Do you feel physically strong and capable most days?   Never: +2   Rarely: +1  Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

2.  When you size yourself up against others your age, how often do you feel you’re in good (or even better) shape? Never: +2 Rarely: +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

3.  Do you see your body as sexy, shapely, attractive – any, or all, of these?  Never: +2  Rarely: +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

4.  Are you at ease shooting off a text message or Twittering?  Never: +2  Rarely: +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1  Always: -2

5.  Are you the knowledge-seeking, google-eyed, curious type?  Never: +2  Rarely: +1  Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

6.  How often do you feel let down by what your body can achieve?  Never: -2  Rarely: -1 Sometimes: 0 Often: +1 Always: +2

7.  Whether it’s your “muffin top” or your “jelly belly”, how often do you negatively rate your body?  Never: -2  Rarely: -1  Sometimes: 0 Often: +1  Always: +2

8.  How regularly do you wake up feeling more tired or sad than excited and energetic?  Never: -2 Rarely: -1 Sometimes: 0 Often: +1 Always: +2

9.  As you age, do you feel more confident and optimistic about what the future holds?  Never: +2 Rarely: +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

10.  Do you draw inspiration and support from your friends?  Never: +2 Rarely: +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

11.  Do you have friends in every age group, from 18 to 88?  Never: +2 Rarely: +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

12.  Are you prepared to gracefully accept some aspects of aging?  Never: +2 Rarely: +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

13.  Do you think getting older means losing your marbles?  Never: -2 Rarely: -1 Sometimes: 0 Often: +1 Always: +2

14.  Do you get excited about experiencing new things?  Never: +2 Rarely: +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

15.  Do you feel under siege from minor illness and fatigue?  Never: -2 Rarely: -1 Sometimes: 0 Often: +1 Always: +2

16.  Do you actively help other people or volunteer for charity?  Never: +2  Rarely: +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

17.  How often do you feel that these are your best years?  Never: +2 Rarely: +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

18.  Does your face reveal a happy, no holds-barred kind of life?  Never: +2 Rarely:  +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always:  -2

19.  Mirror, mirror…do you look older than your age?  Never: -2  Rarely:  -1 Sometimes:  0  Often: +1  Always:  +2

20.  Do you often think that getting older is the pits?  Never: -2  Rarely:  -1  Sometimes: 0  Often:  +1  Always:  +2

21.  Is there meaning and fulfillment in your life?  Never:  +2  Rarely:  +1  Sometimes: 0  Often:  -1  Always: -2

22.  Socially and politically, do you feel you have some opinions to share?  Never: +2  Rarely: +1 Sometimes: 0 Often: -1 Always: -2

Your feel age is:  Add all the negative scores together and, separately, total up the positives.  Write down your age.  Now subtract the negatives, add the positives, and that’s your feel age!  It’s a score based on your physical confidence, personal development, optimism, and attitude toward aging.  Below shows how you can adjust the dial.

If your feel age is younger than your real age…..You’re the adventurous, positive type; you love life and are young at heart.  You feel physically capable. Friends and family draw on your zesty approach to life.  You are aging fabulously!  Maintain your healthy, balanced lifestyle and keep celebrating life.  Continue investing your time and energy in doing what you love – the satisfaction will invigorate both and your close relationships.  Stay emotionally intimate with your spouse.  A healthy sex life, an active social life, and loads of physical exercise will help keep you sizzling!

If your feel age matches your real age……You are balances, lively, realistic, and curious.  You have a strong sense of self that, along with your other strengths, constitutes a great recipe for positive aging.  To hold steady at the same feel age for another 5 years, sprinkle your calendar with friendly get-togethers; get an MP3 play or iPod and spend a weekend loading it to stay connected with technology; and pump up your curiosity about the world.  Keep getting the physical workouts you need- at least 30 minutes 4 or 5 times a week.  And don’t pick up any bad habits- such as settling for inadequate sleep or turning a blind eye to portion control.  It’s all about loving the skin(and the mind) that you’re in.

If your feel age is older than your real age…..Self-awareness and honesty are two of your strengths, yet it’s likely you have some health concerns preventing you from aging in a more positive way.  Make a new beginning.  Put the way you see and describe yourself under the microscope and work out how to celebrate who you are.  Start by writing a list of what you’re good at and what you appreciate about yourself.  Some traits to consider:  creativity, humor, and kindness.  Also, boost your exercise to at least 2 hours a week, and organize more face time with friends.  Research show those who socialize often age better.

If you took this test, how do you feel about your “feel” age?


February 26th  Update:  I just found out from one of my readers that this was not actually written by George Carlin as originally posted.  I still think it is great.  We were all amazed that it was written by George to begin with.  Sorry  to mislead anyone.  It came to me in an e-mail that said it had been checked out on Snopes but guess the e-mail was wrong.  I should have checked myself.  Anyway, I am leaving the post here and making the correction.  It was actually written by Dr. Bob Moorehead in 1990, a former pastor in Seattle.   

 This is an awesome piece.  If you have not read it, take the time to read it now.  If you have read it, take time to read it again!

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete…

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say, ‘ I love you ‘ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.


I like to watch the Dr. Oz show everyday. I think he has a lot of good advice and tips about health and certain diseases. Dr. Oz says there are seven daily sins we should not commit in order to stay healthy. Below is a list of the seven sins.

1. Not stretching in the morning when we get up.

Moving your body the first thing in the morning helps to relieve the stress and get you started for the day.  Dr. Oz says we should stretch for at least 30 minutes each morning.

2.  Not eating breakfast.

N ot eating breakfast gives us a bad start to the day and causes us to eat more as the day goes one.  It also causes our metabolism to slow down.

3.  Running Late

Running late causes us to be stressed.  We should always allow ourselves enough time that we can arrive a few minutes early to work and appointments.

4.  Mindless eating.

Eating out of boredom or habit causes us to gain weight and add weight that we don’t need.

5.  Becoming a couch potato.

This causes our bodies to store fat and our metabolism to slow down and our muscles to turn to fat.  So try to keep moving as much as possible.

6.  Disconnecting .

Don’t disconnect from people.  Call up friends and relatives, get out of the house especially in times of crisis.  Don’t stay locked up in your house all the time alone.

7.  Not having a bedtime.

We all need at least seven and a half hours sleep each night.   We should have a routine before bedtime, turn off the t.v., make the room dark and try to go to bed at the same time each evening.

So there you have it folks!  The seven daily sins we should try not to commit.  

I do stretch in the morning and most of the time I have breakfast. I am always early to appointments but can be a bit of a couch potato sometimes. I don’t have a regular bedtime and need to work on that one.  I am watching the mindless eating thing.  I love people so I don’t think I have ever been guilty of that one.

Are you committing any of these sins?


Remember the hula hoop craze in the late 50s? I used to love to hula
hoop when I was younger. I once entered a contest sponsored by a Frisch’s Restaurant when I was in my early teens and went five hours and twenty minutes. I won a big boy and a malt for all that work! The girl that won went for 8 hours and won a transistor radio.

According to some sources the hula hoop originated in Australia. The 50s hoops were hollow plastic tubing. It is estimated that Wham-O sold over 100 million hoops in 1958 alone.

I recently read an article in Prevention Magazine that “hooping” is making a comeback and they are no longer for the playground but a way to burn calories and tone your stomach muscles.

Today, there are web sites such as http://hooping.org/ and http://yourhoop.com/ where you can purchase custom hoops, collapsible hoops, do-it-yourself hoops and instructional videos if your are interested in “hooping”. They can range in price from $15 to $50 and more. It seems adults need one based on your body weight if you are using it for exercise.

So guys and gals if you want to tone up, get yourself one of these new “hoops”, turn on the music and start “hooping” it up! I am seriously considering trying it out.

Do you have any memories or past experiences about the hula hoops or do you think this would be a good way to lose weight and tone up today?


This was sent to me in an e-mail but it holds such a message I wanted to put it on here. I know some of you have seen it. It is long but worth the read.

A time comes in your life when you finally get it…when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out – ENOUGH!

Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change…or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon.

You come to terms with the fact that neither of you is Prince Charming or Cinderella and that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of “happily everafter” must begin with you…and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are … and that’s OK.

They are entitled to their own views and opinions.

And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself…and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it’s not always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself…and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties..and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche.

And you begin to sift through all the junk you’ve been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you should weigh, what you should wear, what you should do for a living, how much money you should make, what you should drive, how and where you should live, who you should marry, the importance of having and raising children, and what you owe your parents, family, and friends.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view.

And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with … and in the process you learn to go with your instincts.

You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive.

And that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for your next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not your job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing.

You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love.

How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away.

You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.

And you learn that alone does not mean lonely.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.

You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK….and that it is your right to want things and to ask for the things you want … and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won’t settle for less.

And you learn that your body really is your temple.

And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect.

You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest.

And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul.

So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believe you deserve…and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance.

You also learn that no one can do it all alone…and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is the greatest robber baron of all: FEAR itself.

You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.

And you learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people.

On these occasions you learn not to personalize things.

You learn that God isn’t punishing you or failing to answer your prayers.

It’s just life happening.

And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state – the ego.

You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.

Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart’s desire.

And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

Finally, with courage in your heart and God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.– Author Unknown


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